Grief AnD Relief

Regardless of who wins or steals the election on Tuesday, those of us who believe in justice have lost.

We deserve a place to grieve what could have been, even if it tempered with relief that it’s “not worse”.

We deserve a space to let go of our fears & our tears & our anger & our bewilderment. We deserve a pause before turning to the work that must be done if we are to see the clear path to justice in our lifetime.

Let’s breathe together & grieve.

Erotic Breathwork can bring us back into our bodies, reaffirm our connection to it & to each other. Erotic Breathwork can strengthen us for the work that needs to be done. Erotic Breathwork can give us literal & metaphorical space to renew & reset & rest.

The structure of this session will run like most of my Community Breathwork Sessions but the words used for the visualization will be dependent on the outcome of Tuesday November 5.

Culture of Welcome and Belonging: 

The event is explicitly QTIPOC-Centered, meaning that the desires, lived experiences, and safety of Queer & Trans & Intersex People Of Color are centered; meaning that Whiteness, Cisness*, & heterosexuality are not the “default” human states, and that those experiences will not be centered at the expense of others. If you are White and/or Cishet* (or cis* & queer), please be mindful of the ways that your privilege impacts the safety of others, and be mindful of whether you can be comfortable in an intimate setting when you are not the “default human”.

All bodies are welcome in our CyberCircle: trans bodies, thin bodies, old bodies, cis bodies, intersex bodies, gender non-conforming bodies, currently-abled bodies, fat bodies, disabled bodies, young bodies, bodies of any class, religion, or spiritual tradition. While there's no way to guarantee that all bodies will be represented in every event, it is my intention to have a diverse & welcoming space—so if you have problems being in community with any of the aforementioned types of bodies my events are not the right space for you.

*cisness/cis/cishet all refer to “cisgender”, a term means that you agree with the gender you were assigned at birth. It is not a slur, it is simply a way to describe people who aren’t trans in a way that avoids othering trans people. This is not up for debate. If you feel that cis/cisgender is a slur, this is a sign that this space is not for you.

**simply put, kyriarchy is the social system that keeps all intersecting oppressions (racism, sexism, ableism, homophobia, etc.) in place.

Frequently Asked Questions:

Do I have to come to both parts of the ritual?

You do not have to attend both parts of the ritual to participate. You’ll probably get more out of it if you come to both, but they also work well as stand-alone rituals.

Who is this event for?

This event is for anyone wanting to walk into the New Year with a clearer energetic field, planting the seeds that will bloom over the course of 2025.

Who is this space not for?
This space is not for folx harboring a hierarchical value system for human bodies’ worth. This is not a space for people invested in isms/phobia (including but not limited to less commonly mentioned ones: transphobia/erasure; anti-sexworker beliefs/equating sexwork with sex-trafficking; fatphobia).

Is this some kind of orgy?

No. We will use self-pleasuring as the tool to raise energy for both rituals, but participants will not be able to see or hear one another after the introductions & first parts of the ritual.

Who will be in the group?
The intention is that this will be a multiracial, mixed age, mixed gender, mixed ability, mixed sexual orientation/preference space. The group is Queer & Trans People of Color-centered, meaning that it is centered around the lived experiences of folx in those communities (QTPOC are not a monolith). The group is also explicitly welcoming to folks who are older, fat, disabled, single, POC, current/former sexworkers or in any way a part of historically marginalized communities. No bullshit will be tolerated. If you aren't cool being in a group with any of these, please don't register.

I’m not familiar with the online environment. Do I need technical skills to participate?
Actually, it’s really simple to engage! All you need is an internet connection and a computer, or a tablet (preferably with a keyboard, but that’s up to you). We’ll be using Zoom. If you don’t already have it, you can download it here. You’ll want the best sound possible, This usually means headphones/earbuds & wired internet. WiFi & a speaker can work just fine depending on the strength of your connection and the quality of your speaker.

You want to be somewhere comfortable without a lot of bright light. You should have on non-restrictive clothing, a blanket, some water, something to write/take notes with/on/in, whatever cushions you need to be comfortable, and possibly some tissues.

You’ll receive a more detailed email before the session.

I’m in Indiana/Australia/Buenos Aires: can I participate?
Yes! All you need is an internet connection and a device with a camera (laptop/desktop/smartphone/tablet)! The sessions will be held on Zoom. If you don’t already have it, you can download it here.

What kind of environment do you create?
I pay a lot of attention to the careful creation of containers, in which bodies can feel safe enough and relax enough to speak openly. Personally, I am non-judgmental, super accepting, and kind. I expect all the participants in this group to be so as well. It is a risk for everyone to show up vulnerably, and trust the group to hold them, so we will do our very best to make sure you are well met. If anything comes up that is distressing to someone in the group, every effort will be made to ensure they feel safe and welcome, even if at a growth edge. I do distinguish between safety and comfort, and know that most of our profound transformative learning comes at that intersection.

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