Please read the policies completely. Then schedule a Vibe Check, so we can both be sure that this is the right space for you.

AGREEMENTS:

• You agree to participate fully, and remain engaged for the duration of the offering.  If you are unable to do so, you agree to email your intention to leave to M’kali-Hashiki in advance.

• You agree to participate in all activities & prompts in ways that feel useful and relevant to you.  You agree to modify them to meet your needs if necessary. If you get stuck, you agree to let M’kali-Hashiki know as soon as possible.

• You agree to complete your prompts each week in a way that works for your capacity that week.

• You agree to communicate directly with M’kali-Hashiki ASAP if you have any questions or concerns. 

• You agree to not share the content of this offering without asking and receiving M'kali-Hashiki's explicit written permission to do so. This includes not teaching these techniques to your clients and/or students.

• You agree to having each session recorded (your image will not be captured & the recording will be paused for questions/comments).

• You agree to communicate any disability access needs and to respect the access needs of others. 

FEEDBACK 

As we come together in sacred community, one of the most useful gifts is the one of feedback. Please use the following criteria to discern and distill the feedback you give.

Ask yourself: 

• Is it helpful?

• Is it timely?

• Is it kind?

More on the word “kind.” In the context that it is used here, it means feedback given with the intention to support that person's learning as opposed to tear someone down. 

If the answer to these questions is "Yes," please share that feedback.

If there are things in that feedback that trouble you, the invitation is to be with that discomfort for a little bit, as that discomfort is usually a sign we’re on our “growing edge”, before reaching out for support.

CULTURE OF WELCOMING & BELONGING: 

The group is explicitly QTIPOC-Centered, meaning that the desires, lived experiences, and safety of Queer & Trans & Intersex People Of Color are centered; meaning that Whiteness, Cisness*, & heterosexuality are not considered the “default human states”, and that those experiences will not be centered at the expense of others. If you are White and/or Cishet* (or cis* & queer), please be mindful of the ways that your privilege can impact the safety of others, and be mindful of whether you can be comfortable in an intimate setting when you are not the “default human”. If you need support around that, check in with others in the circle who occupy the same position(s) of privilege that you do first, and then check-in with M’kali-Hashiki if necessary.

We all have been inundated with kyriarchical** messages & may unconsciously replicate those viewpoints when communicating. When that happens, grace will be extended in not assuming an intent to harm, while space will be made for that person to be lovingly called-in (including if the person needing calling-in is M’kali-Hashiki). If called-in, you understand that this calling-in is a gift to stretch your understanding of the world & invite you to be in solidarity with people living in bodies marginalized or multiply marginalized by The State in arenas you are not; you agree to take time and check in with your body for somatic signs of defensiveness (clenched jaw or butthole, tightness in chest, a halt in breathing, etc), and to relax those parts before responding. If doing the calling-in, you agree to give the person time to respond. If you need support around being called-in or doing the calling-in, you may reach out to M’kali-Hashiki for that support. 

With that said, anyone using overtly bigoted language (racist, homophobic, fat shaming, slut shaming, transphobic, ableist, sexist, etc.) in communicating with an individual or in the group will be removed from the circle immediately, and no refunds will be given.  

If you have questions, concerns or comments, about anything said in the sessions please contact M'kali-Hashiki immediately. 

All bodies are welcome in our CyberCircle: trans bodies, thin bodies, old bodies, cis bodies, intersex bodies, gender non-conforming bodies, currently-abled bodies, fat bodies, disabled bodies, young bodies, bodies of any class, religion, or spiritual tradition. While there's no way to guarantee that all bodies will be represented in each CyberCircle, it is my intention to have a diverse & welcoming space—so if you have problems being in community with any of the aforementioned types of bodies my events are not the right space for you.

As part of creating a culture of welcoming & belonging, everyone is expected to self-monitor & to take risks: if you are someone who usually talks a lot in group settings, you agree to take this opportunity to exercise & strengthen your listening & witnessing muscles; if you are someone who usually is quiet, you agree to take this opportunity to exercise & strengthen your communication muscles.

REFUND POLICIES

There are no refunds once you have signed up for this offering. This offering is designed for folks who are ready to make a serious transformation in their lives, and the financial commitment is an important component of sticking with yourself. And really, the program is worth a lot more than what I’m charging, and it's a big pain in the butt to deal with refunds. That said, if you go all of the way through the cycle, come to all of the calls and complete all of the prompts and you end up not feeling like you got value out of it, I'll split the difference with you, and send you half of what you paid. 

*cisness/cis/cishet all refer to “cisgender”, a term means that you agree with the gender you were assigned at birth. It is not a slur, it is simply a description of gender that avoids “Othering” trans people. This is not up for debate. If you feel that cis/cisgender is a slur, this is a sign that this space (and any of my work) is not for you.

**simply put, kyriarchy is the social system that keeps all intersecting oppressions (racism, sexism, ableism, homophobia, etc.) in place.