What is your relationship with your genitalia?

Do you basically ignore it outside of hygiene and sex? 

From the time we are born, we are inundated with negative messages about our genitals. We are told that they are smelly, that they are ugly, that they are gross, that they’re the root of evil, that they are somehow just wrong; and/or we were given unrealistic images to compare them. These messages sink into our unconscious and has an effect on how we see ourselves; how we treat ourselves and how we treat others.

Self-love and self acceptance includes all of your body— including your genitalia. In this 11 week group journey you will strengthen the relationship between your genitalia and the rest of your body: between your genitalia and your heart, between your genitalia and your voice, and for you renegade mystics out there between your genitalia and your third eye. 

This course is an expanded version of my free e-book “Turn Your Junk Into Treasure: 5 Steps To Deepening Your Relationship With Your Nethers”. What make this different is the regular commitment and the ongoing support. The benefit of transformative steps in community with others cannot be overstated. You’ll be able to get different viewpoints that will help you reframe your understanding of your body, your sexual expression, your spirituality, and the sacredness of the entirety of your physical container.

You will move further along in your journey to self-love and self-acceptance. You’ll note a transformation in the way you connect to yourself, and a transformation in your relationships: both sexual and non-sexual.

​BY the end of this course, you will: 

Attendee testimonials

“The container was very safe, boundaries were clear, and M'Kali Hashiki's integrity and ability to hold space for and with others was super apparent and strong.”

“I found the workshop to be surprisingly serene, replenishing, safe, and transformative.”

“I actually felt like a new person leaving the workshop.”

“Your presentation style [was] relaxed, focused, knowledgeable, approachable, & fun. Content [was] unique, practical, life-changing.”

Registration Rates

Instead of a sliding scale I have 3 different payment tiers. All tiers give access to the same information/attention. There is nothing you have to prove to me about your financial situation, I don't ask for your tax returns or pay stubs. I simply ask that you do some honest reflection about your current financial reality from a mindset of abundance rather than one of scarcity & then choose the tier meets that reality. 

The tiers are named as they are to reflect the amount of “green” you have access to. The Meadow Tier is my “market rate”; Garden Tier is for those for whom market rate would be a hardship; and Savanna Tier is for those with abundant discretionary income.

The ticketing app that I use charges a fee (pretty much all online ticketing apps do). For the Meadow & Savanna Tiers, the fees are included in the rates listed. For the Garden Tier, I absorb the fee.

Savanna Tier $707.98

Meadow Tier $544.97

Garden Tier $420.00

Treasure Team: register with a buddy & you’ll each save 15% on the Meadow Tier Rate & I’ll pay the ticketing fee.

Payment plans, limited Pay-What-You-Can &
limited work-trade slots available.
Contact Me For More Information

Recorded Content is released Monday at 8::00am PST
Class is Saturday 2:00-3:30pm PST
Support Hour is every week at a different day & time.

Week 1: Self Assessment
What is your current relationship with that part of your body?
Video released February 17
Live Session: February 22

Week 2: Preparation
Creating a sacred lab space
Video released February 24
Live Session: February 29

Week 3: Investigation
What do you look like?
Video released March 2
Live Session: March 7

Week 4: Break

Week 5: Reflection
What do you think you look like?
Video released March 16
Live Session: March 21

Week 6: Interaction
Creating a physical relationship
Video released March 23
Live Session: March 28

Week 7: Break

Week 8: Communication
What does your body want to tell you?
Video released April 6
Live Session: April 11

Week 9: Pleasure
What does your body like?
Video released April 13
Live Session: April 18

Week 10: Break

Week 11: Integration
Where do you go from here?
Video released April 27
Live Session: May 2

Course Container Policies

Agreements:

• You agree to participate fully, and remain engaged for the duration of the course.  If you are unable to do so, you agree to email your intention to leave to M’kali-Hashiki.

• You agree to participate in all assignments and activities in ways that feel useful and relevant to you.  You agree to modify assignments to meet your needs. If you get stuck, you agree to let M’kali-Hashiki know as soon as possible.

• You agree to complete your assignments and submit for feedback each week by the due date.

• You agree to communicate directly with M’kali-Hashiki ASAP if you have any questions or concerns. 

• You agree to not share the content of this class without asking and receiving M'kali-Hashiki's permission. This includes not teaching these techniques to your clients.

• You agree to having each session recorded. If the recordings are used for other online educational purposes, your likeness & voice will be edited out.

• You will communicate any disability access needs and respect the access needs of others. 

• Everyone is expected to self-monitor & to take risks: if you are someone who usually talks a lot in group settings, you agree to take this opportunity to exercise & strengthen your listening & witnessing muscles; if you are someone who usually doesn’t participate that much, you agree to take this opportunity to exercise & strengthen your communication muscles.

Feedback 

Receiving constructive feedback, while simultaneously feeling into our power and strength is an integral part of creating & maintaining a dynamic community committed to evolution & growth.

Therefore, please use the following criteria to discern and distill the feedback you give.

Ask yourself: 

• Is it helpful?

• Is it timely?

• Is it kind?

More on the word “kind.” In the context that it is used here, it means feedback given with the intention to support that person's learning as opposed to tear someone down. 

If the answer to these questions is "Yes," please share that feedback. If there are things in that feedback that trouble you, the invitation is to be with that discomfort for a little bit.

Culture of Welcome and Belonging: 

The group is explicitly QTIPOC-Centered, meaning that the desires, lived experiences, and safety of Queer & Trans & Intersex People Of Color are centered; meaning that Whiteness, Cisness*, & heterosexuality are not the “default” human states, and that those experiences will not be centered at the expense of others. If you are White and/or Cishet* (or cis* & queer), please be mindful of the ways that your privilege impacts the safety of others, and be mindful of whether you can be comfortable in an intimate setting when you are not the “default human”.

We all have been inundated with kyriarchical** messages & may unconsciously replicate those viewpoints when communicating. When that happens, space will be made for anyone to be lovingly called-in (including M’kali-Hashiki). If called-in, you understand that this calling-in is a gift to stretch your understanding of the world & invite you to be in solidarity with people living in bodies marginalized or multiply marginalized by The State; you agree to take time and check in with your body for somatic signs of defensiveness (clenched jaw or butthole, tightness in chest, a halt in breathing, etc), and to relax those parts before responding. If doing the calling-in, you agree to give the person time to respond. If you need support around being called-in or doing the calling-in, you may reach out to M’kali-Hashiki for that support. 

With that said, anyone using overtly perjoratives or slurs (racist, homophobic, fat shaming, slut shaming, transphobic, ableist, sexist, etc. language about a historically marginalized group that they are not a part of) in communicating with a classmate or in the group will be withdrawn from the course immediately, and no refunds will be given.  

If you have questions, concerns or comments, about anything said in the sessions please contact M'kali-Hashiki immediately. 

All bodies are welcome in our CyberCircle: trans bodies, thin bodies, old bodies, cis bodies, intersex bodies, gender non-conforming bodies, currently-abled bodies, fat bodies, disabled bodies, young bodies, bodies of any class, religion, or spiritual tradition. While there's no way to guarantee that all bodies will be represented in each CyberCourse, it is my intention to have a diverse & welcoming space—so if you have problems being in community with any of the aforementioned types of bodies my events are not the right space for you.

Refund Policy

There are no refunds once you have signed up for the program. This program is designed for folks who are ready to make a serious change in their professional & personal lives, and the financial commitment is an important component of sticking with yourself. And really, the program is worth a lot more than what I’m charging, and it's a big pain in the butt to deal with refunds. That said, if you go all of the way through the course (the code word is “code”), come to all of the calls and complete all of the assignments and you end up not feeling like you got value out of it, I'll split the difference with you, and send you half of what you paid. 

*cisness/cis/cishet all refer to “cisgender”, a term means that you agree with the gender you were assigned at birth. It is not a slur, it is simply a way to describe people who aren’t trans in a way that avoids othering trans people. This is not up for debate. If you feel that cis/cisgender is a slur, this is a sign that this space is not for you.

**simply put, kyriarchy is the social system that keeps all intersecting oppressions (racism, sexism, ableism, homophobia, etc.) in place.

Frequently Asked Questions:

When does this class take place? How long is each session?
The group journey commences on Monday, February 17th & concludes on April 25th.
A recorded talk is released on Monday morning at 8amPST. We meet in real time on the following Saturday @ 1:00pm - 2:30pm PST. There are also “office hours”, 1 hour each week at varying day/times if you need more support. There are 3 week-long breaks in the course.

Who is this class designed for?
Anyone who is interested in having a more positive relationship with their genitalia, and thus their entire body. A lot of our sexual & erotic issues are rooted in the negative view we have of our genitalia.

I’m not cis. Is this intensive for me?
Our genitalia is not an inherent reflection of our gender. This intensive avoids gendered and/or clinicl language for genitalia. There will be links provided to pictures of varied genitalia, with content warnings.

This intensive has information that’s applicable to everyone, regardless of what your genitalia looks like & regardless of your gender.

Will we be showing our genitalia in this intensive?
No. We will be sharing reflections about our feelings about our genitalia, we will share reflections on what came up for us when doing the assignments, but there will be no sharing pictures or descriptions of genitalia in our CyberCircle.

Who is this space not for?
This space is not for folx harboring a hierarchical value system for human bodies’ worth. This is not a space for people invested in isms/phobia (including but not limited to less commonly mentioned ones: transphobia/erasure; anti-sexworker beliefs/equating sexwork with sex-trafficking; fatphobia).

This is NOT a good fit for you if you are in a tumultuous time of life; moving, new job, new baby, etc. To receive all the benefit, you need to be able to dedicate time and energy to the practices.

Who will be in the group?
In order to foster an intimate container, this intensive will be limited to 15 people: 8 of those slots are reserved for People of Color (this does not mean that 7 spots are reserved for white people, anyone may fill those remaining slots). Registration will be open first to People of Color for 3 weeks and then open to all. The intention is that this will be a multiracial, mixed age, mixed gender, mixed ability, mixed sexual orientation space. The group is Queer & Trans People of Color-centered, meaning that it is centered around the lived experiences of folx in those communities (QTPOC are not a monolith). The group is also explicitly welcoming to folks who are older, fat, disabled, single, POC, current/former sexworkers or in any way a part of historically marginalized communities. No bullshit will be tolerated. If you aren't cool being in a group with any of these, please don't register.

I won’t be able to make each session, is that ok?
I’ve designed this course to integrate flexibly into busy lives and schedules. While the recorded talk will be released on Monday, you can watch it any day (as long as you watch it before Thursday). All of our Saturday sessions will be recorded, so you can always listen later if you can’t make a session live. You’ll also be able to tailor your practice activities in between course sessions to the schedule that works best for you because our course interactions will all take place online. Whether you’re on vacation, at home, or out working at a coffee shop, the course contents and platform will be accessible you.

I’m not familiar with the online environment. Do I need technical skills to participate?
Actually, it’s really simple to engage in an online course! All you need is an internet connection and a computer, or a tablet (preferably with a keyboard, but that’s up to you). We’ll be using Zoom for each session and “office hours”. We’ll be using an optional bulletin board, a google-group email list to stay in touch during classes, and may use flipgrid to record brief videos (it’s sort of like Marco Polo, but specifically for “classrooms”).

How much time can I expect this course to take?
I’ve worked to create a manageable course. Each week, you’ll have access to a 30-minute recorded talk. Later that week we’ll gather for 90minutes and I will teach additional practice techniques and suggest practice & reflection work for you to engage in during the next week. Depending on you, these practices could take you an hour, or several hours—relative to the time you have and the way you work. With the addition of some time spent online connecting with your course mates and posting your thoughts in the private forum, I expect this course could take 3-5 hours a week—or as much as you’d like to give it. Of course, the more you put in, the more you’ll get out.

I’m in Indiana/Australia/Buenos Aires: can I participate?
Yes! All you need is an internet connection and a device with a camera (laptop/desktop/smartphone/tablet)!

I’m completely strapped for time. Are you going to offer this again?
Probably. It may also become an ecourse.

What kind of environment do you create?
I pay a lot of attention to the careful creation of containers, in which bodies can feel safe enough and relax enough to speak openly. Personally, I am non-judgmental, super accepting, and kind. I expect all the participants in this group to be so as well. It is a risk for everyone to show up vulnerably, and trust the group to hold them, so we will do our very best to make sure you are well met. If anything comes up that is distressing to someone in the group, every effort will be made to ensure they feel safe and welcome, even if at a growth edge. I do distinguish between safety and comfort, and know that most of our profound transformative learning comes at that intersection.

What's your refund policy?
There are no refunds once you have signed up for the program. This program is designed for folks who are ready to make a serious change in their lives, and the financial commitment is an important component of sticking with yourself. Please be certain before you sign up.

What if I want to work with you one-on-one?
The course will be a great introduction to my guiding principles and to how I hold space as a facilitator. If you like, you will be able to continue working with me after the course is over (all attendees will receive a discount code for individual coaching programs).

If having read this far, you’re sure that you’d be better served working one-on-one with me, please click here to schedule a consultation.

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